[oysterbarron]

QUOTE (Typhus @ Monday, Aug 13 2012, 11:16)

There is no such thing as a 'break'. It's a euphemism to spare your feelings. The relationship is over and you should move on. Want some advice? The girl needed someone strong to take charge of her, weak people gravitate towards those who are dominant and commanding. You however felt that the best course of action was to coddle her, pander to her insecurities, in doing so you made yourself look insecure and desperate. She most likely sensed this which only exacerbated her own feelings of worthlessness. You should have been stronger.

Seriously typhus can i get your number to have on speed dial or something cracking advice!

It's pretty obvious you have some pretty strong feelings for this girl, but this unfortuantly has a tendency to cloud your judgment. Move along bro she'll only sh*t on you again!

[Viperman]

Whip It Out


Someone had too

[Futurama_Freak1]

QUOTE (DP Man @ Monday, Aug 13 2012, 21:12)

So a while back I asked on advice on some girl I liked and long story straight, she was in love with me back so we started a relationship. Fast forward to a month and one week later, she messages me over Facebook telling me that she's losing feelings for me and that she's been feeling depressed over it during the last few days. She said this was because I'm too clingy, too "full-on" and that my constant reminders of how beautiful and that I love her were making her feel a bit bad. What do I do? We're taking a break until she "gets back on track" but I don't want to lose her because I genuinely love her so much that it hurts. I don't know if this is wishful thinking but I think something else may be bothering her, I've been somewhat worried about her for the last few days and I have a feeling that how I've been acting isn't the main cause of this.

This happened to me, and it basically means it's over for you two.

May as well run out with your head held high and move on.

Or........ constantly badger her for an entire year on end nonstop and eventually they'll change their mind and things will go back to normal.*

*not recommended, but it worked for me.

[EscoLehGo]

Don't put the pussy on a pedestal bro, girls don't like it and as Typhus mentioned earlier it makes you look insecure, or like you're not used to having a female in your life. Also, if you're a youngin I suggest you take this as a lesson and move on, I know when you're young things like this seem very important and feel like they'll last forever but when you get older you'll barely remember it. The next girl you get with don't shower her with compliments and don't hit her up all the time, even if you don't have anything else going on in your life create an illusion that you do. Girls always say that want a guy like you described you were to her but the cake is a lie, my son.

[Futurama_Freak1]

This advice is all good, unlike mine. But what I do understand from being there myself is that no matter what we tell this guy, he isn't going to listen.

[Viperman]

QUOTE (Futurama_Freak1 @ Monday, Aug 13 2012, 13:33)

This advice is all good, unlike mine. But what I do understand from being there myself is that no matter what we tell this guy, he isn't going to listen.

Other than computer related garble, when was the last time anyone took advice from randoms on the internet?

[chris]

Typhus is so right here, my first thought reading the topic title was 'drop that bitch', OP you should start getting out on the prowl for some fresh vag asap.

[WF the Hobgoblin]

Start being a d*ck to her and tell her what's what. It's unlikely but she may respond well to this new "manly" version of you and unless your dead set on remaining friends, it's about your only option.

[deepthroatgta6]

My first relation ended in a similar way. I learnt a lesson. There is never a break in a relation. Either she doesn't want a relation with you, has someone else as an option or her mindset is causing hindrance.

Before some days, my rant in the grumpy old forumers was all about a friend who was in a situation like you. The only difference was that his break had ended in a break up and he wasn't accepting it.

In my relation of four years, there have been problems between me and my partner but texting/Facebook, they never work, man! It becomes a stale-mate.
I think you really should meet in person. You must convince her to meet you. You guys need to open up.

See, what you've been saying here are the same words you should tell her. You say you don't want to lose the relation, tell her, man. I bet you haven't told her that. Just tell everything that you feel and then leave it upon her.

Managing and trying to save the relation are other words for 'forcing the relation to work' and this does not work in the long run.

First relationship is always more precious. All the best, man. I don't know you but I hope all goes well for you.

[Warlord.]

This is definitely not what a relationship is to me.

I mean, you like a girl and as soon as this happens you're STRATEGISING.

'What do I ask her' 'How often should I tell her she's beautiful' 'Do I play hard to get'

What's the f*cking point?

I mean if you wanna tell her she's beautiful, say it when you feel like it, don't make it into something where you go 'OH sh*t ITS 3 PM I BETTER TELL HER SHE'S BEAUTIFUL OR SHE'S GONNA DUMP ME'.

I mean if a relationship means constantly strategising and plotting to keep the other person loving you, I'd rather stay single forever. Seems more of a chore than what I'd consider a relationship.

But hey, that's just what I think.

[Gtaghost22]

I don't want to sound like an arsehole but..

It's over mate, there is no such thing as a break, that's f*cking bollocks.
She is just making an excuse to sound nice but she will dumb you later anyway, be a man and do it yourself, she obviously doesn't like you so why bother and waste your time?

[Vercetti27]

she has serious emotional problems indicating from what you've said. tell her what typhus said about her, maybe she needs to realise that she needs to be stronger, and quit telling her she's beautiful. It shouldn't be said so often, thats its value

[OchyGTA]

Man I was in a similar situation once. I got into an argument with my girlfriend over how some guy at we job was hitting on her. She suggested we take a break to which I reluctantly complied. I got drunk that night and ended up sleeping with some chick I met at the bar. Unfortunately I didn't think about the trail and Rachael and I broke up. I told her that we were on a break but she wasn't having any of it.

[Irviding]

Typhus is completely right. You shouldn't treat any girl like that (save for a wife/fiance/really long term girlfriend - yours was a month and a week) - the key with dating girls is to act like they are nothing special. Even if they are really special to you, if you treat them that way they will get bored and leave you. Don't call them and text them every f*cking waking moment, don't show up to their window with flowers and chocolates every night, etc. Your best bet is to leave her alone for at least 3 days. At that point, shoot her a really short and simple text saying nothing more than "let's talk in person, meet me (location) at (time)" - don't respond to whatever she says next, unless it's rescheduling when you meet.

[Vercetti27]

QUOTE (Irviding @ Monday, Aug 13 2012, 19:23)

Typhus is completely right. You shouldn't treat any girl like that (save for a wife/fiance/really long term girlfriend - yours was a month and a week) - the key with dating girls is to act like they are nothing special. Even if they are really special to you, if you treat them that way they will get bored and leave you. Don't call them and text them every f*cking waking moment, don't show up to their window with flowers and chocolates every night, etc. Your best bet is to leave her alone for at least 3 days. At that point, shoot her a really short and simple text saying nothing more than "let's talk in person, meet me (location) at (time)" - don't respond to whatever she says next, unless it's rescheduling when you meet.

sorry but every girl is different , I can't imagine that would work when a girl sees you as a friend as well.

[EscoLehGo]

QUOTE (Vercetti27 @ Monday, Aug 13 2012, 19:29)

QUOTE (Irviding @ Monday, Aug 13 2012, 19:23) Typhus is completely right. You shouldn't treat any girl like that (save for a wife/fiance/really long term girlfriend - yours was a month and a week) - the key with dating girls is to act like they are nothing special. Even if they are really special to you, if you treat them that way they will get bored and leave you. Don't call them and text them every f*cking waking moment, don't show up to their window with flowers and chocolates every night, etc. Your best bet is to leave her alone for at least 3 days. At that point, shoot her a really short and simple text saying nothing more than "let's talk in person, meet me (location) at (time)" - don't respond to whatever she says next, unless it's rescheduling when you meet. sorry but every girl is different , I can't imagine that would work when a girl sees you as a friend as well.

She probably doesn't want to keep him as a real friend though, just some back up guy she can go cry to when sh*t hits the fan.

[JOSEPH X]

If you love someone, let them go - and if they come back, they're yours forever.

So the saying goes. You should trust that if she doesn't come back, then she never really loved you anyway.

[blitz]

She told you through Facebook? Come on...

[Irviding]

QUOTE (EscoLehGo @ Monday, Aug 13 2012, 15:38)

QUOTE (Vercetti27 @ Monday, Aug 13 2012, 19:29) QUOTE (Irviding @ Monday, Aug 13 2012, 19:23) Typhus is completely right. You shouldn't treat any girl like that (save for a wife/fiance/really long term girlfriend - yours was a month and a week) - the key with dating girls is to act like they are nothing special. Even if they are really special to you, if you treat them that way they will get bored and leave you. Don't call them and text them every f*cking waking moment, don't show up to their window with flowers and chocolates every night, etc. Your best bet is to leave her alone for at least 3 days. At that point, shoot her a really short and simple text saying nothing more than "let's talk in person, meet me (location) at (time)" - don't respond to whatever she says next, unless it's rescheduling when you meet. sorry but every girl is different , I can't imagine that would work when a girl sees you as a friend as well. She probably doesn't want to keep him as a real friend though, just some back up guy she can go cry to when sh*t hits the fan.

They're really not. You can't worship the ground some girl you've been going out with for a month walks on. If you do that, you'll be put into either A) the friendzone or B) what Esco said, become a backup guy for her to go and cry to and hear nice things about herself for a few days before she moves on to someone else.

[universetwisters]

I hate to break it to you, but my ex girlfriend pulled the same sh*t on me-shes a whore.