[EscoLehGo]

QUOTE (goin-god @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 20:17)

EscoLehGo you sound like a very sad person. No offence.

Whys that? That's honest advice for a 15 year old boy, probably the most awkward and weird time in a man's life

[TheGTAHell97]

Thx for the replies... EscoLehGo Porn actually suck.. You have to pay and the free one are sh*tty... It was fun at first.. then, it was the same thing over and over again... So I got bored...

[GtA01]

I have the exact same problem. Occasionally I can overcome the shyness, but 99% of the time it overcomes me. I just try to swallow down the shyness and just be more open, it's very hard, but it can sometimes work. The worst part is when some little ass starts being cocky with you and you're too shy to be an ass back... oh well.

[Gareth Croke]

Everything that everyone else has said id true, just go out there and talk, which for most folk is easy for the same sex.

If you're talking about the opposite sex then at your age it can be a little awkward as you and the people around you will have different interests, it gets easier with age as you experience more in life, both genders interests will become more and more common and you'll be able to talk about anything much easier.

The trick is, and it's not an easy one to pull off, is when you are talking to a member of the opposite sex then nature will kick in and you'll start thinking of them in what some folk will see as an inappropriate way, so you'll be talking to a girl and thinking "she's hot" etc. This will more than likely make you start fumbling your words or not even speak. The trick then is to try and suppress those thoughts as much as possible and just talk to them like a mate.

I'm not going to pretend that women are just the same as men when it comes to conversation and we shouldn't feel awkward or any of that usual TV talk show bullsh*t, cause it's simply not true men and women think in completely different ways, but learning to get over that myth of "We're all the same" means you'll talk to women easier.

Now time to put my cynical grumpy hat on and give you my theory...

Here is the key to everything, if men ever worked out how women think then the universe would end.

[EscoLehGo]

QUOTE (TheGTAHell97 @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 20:22)

Thx for the replies... EscoLehGo Porn actually suck.. You have to pay and the free one are sh*tty... It was fun at first.. then, it was the same thing over and over again... So I got bored...

Really? You must be going to some inferiorsites, try xvideos.com, they have everything there, even the really obscure sh*t that you're into but you're kind of embarrassed that you are.

[TheGTAHell97]

QUOTE (GtA01 @ Friday, Jul 6 2012, 04:23)

I have the exact same problem. Occasionally I can overcome the shyness, but 99% of the time it overcomes me. I just try to swallow down the shyness and just be more open, it's very hard, but it can sometimes work. The worst part is when some little ass starts being cocky with you and you're too shy to be an ass back... oh well.

So true... Trying to swallow the shyness some times work.. But it usually takes time.. And I have to be in a group to do this.. If I'm alone with someone, I just shut my trap..

[goin-god]

QUOTE (EscoLehGo @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 17:20)

QUOTE (goin-god @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 20:17) EscoLehGo you sound like a very sad person. No offence. Whys that? That's honest advice for a 15 year old boy, probably the most awkward and weird time in a man's life

You said people are terrible, so you seem to avoid them. Makes me think you rarely talk to people.
You even said he shouldn't care about looking for friends or people to talk to.
And said masturbating is actually better than being with a girl. At around 15 most people want to experience their first love, masturbating isn't gonna feel better than that.

Overall you give the impression that your life is like that.

[TheGTAHell97]

Yes, I sometimes do masturbate. But it was boring... I just wanted to make friends not love...

[EscoLehGo]

QUOTE (goin-god @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 20:27)

You said people are terrible, so you seem to avoid them. Makes me think you rarely talk to people. You even said he shouldn't care about looking for friends or people to talk to. And said masturbating is actually better than being with a girl. At around 15 most people want to experience their first love, masturbating isn't gonna feel better than that. Overall you give the impression that your life is like that.[/color]

People are terrible and I never said that masturbation was better than the real thing but for a shy 15 year old it's pretty much your best bet for right now until things work themselves out and you grow into yourself a little better. Also, at 15 boys are just trying to get laid and they're thinking of sex 24/7, I think it's the girls who are interested in "love". I don't think he should avoid people but don't put them on a pedestal, realize they're mostly assholes anyway and you really don't have to impress them.

[TheGTAHell97]

QUOTE (EscoLehGo @ Friday, Jul 6 2012, 04:31)

QUOTE (goin-god @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 20:27) You said people are terrible, so you seem to avoid them. Makes me think you rarely talk to people. You even said he shouldn't care about looking for friends or people to talk to. And said masturbating is actually better than being with a girl. At around 15 most people want to experience their first love, masturbating isn't gonna feel better than that. Overall you give the impression that your life is like that.[/color] People are terrible and I never said that masturbation was better than the real thing but for a shy 15 year old it's pretty much your best bet for right now until things work themselves out and you grow into yourself a little better. Also, at 15 boys are just trying to get laid and they're thinking of sex 24/7, I think it's the girls who are interested in "love". I don't think he should avoid people but don't put them on a pedestal, realize they're mostly assholes anyway and you really don't have to impress them.

I guess your right except for the "people are terrible" part... BTW, the site you gave me didn't work..

[goin-god]

QUOTE (EscoLehGo @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 17:31)

QUOTE (goin-god @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 20:27) You said people are terrible, so you seem to avoid them. Makes me think you rarely talk to people. You even said he shouldn't care about looking for friends or people to talk to. And said masturbating is actually better than being with a girl. At around 15 most people want to experience their first love, masturbating isn't gonna feel better than that. Overall you give the impression that your life is like that.[/color] People are terrible and I never said that masturbation was better than the real thing but for a shy 15 year old it's pretty much your best bet for right now until things work themselves out and you grow into yourself a little better. Also, at 15 boys are just trying to get laid and they're thinking of sex 24/7, I think it's the girls who are interested in "love". I don't think he should avoid people but don't put them on a pedestal, realize they're mostly assholes anyway and you really don't have to impress them.

And everyone hates black people.

[guib]

QUOTE (EscoLehGo @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 20:31)

I don't think he should avoid people but don't put them on a pedestal, realize they're mostly assholes anyway and you really don't have to impress them.

I agree on that part, people can be jerks, if you wanna make friends with somebody, hang around people that actually talk and listen back when you are in a conversation.
I had many times before that I saw somebody and thought: I will make friends to them! and then get ignored all the time. Then there were these couple of dudes which asked me a little about me and talked to me, and they were actually more interesting then I thought they were...

And also, when you are in a group of people who say to you that they are messing with you, but actually hurting you, get out! You don't want those people to be your friends.
I had once "friends" like that and when I would join in a conversation about things, they would say something like: "oh, you don't know anything about that" and "We are in a conversation here!". And then I was the bad guy in the group, so I would just sit silently in a group for a half of hour and then people would say: "Oh, you should talk more, you are just so boring".

[rhyn]

Your problem is you seem to put all the onus on yourself to be the one that has to get the other person to like you. Try to start thinking like they have just as much responsibility to make you like them as you have to them. There are two people in a conversation you don't have to do all the work. Just asking " how are you" can start a conversation. If you aren't like minded or don't get on well with someone it's not the end of the world.

[TheGTAHell97]

QUOTE (guib @ Friday, Jul 6 2012, 04:42)

I had many times before that I saw somebody and thought: I will make friends to them! and then get ignored all the time. And also, when you are in a group of people who say to you that they are messing with you, but actually hurting you, get out! You don't want those people to be your friends. I had once "friends" like that and when I would join in a conversation about things, they would say something like: "oh, you don't know anything about that" and "We are in a conversation here!". And then I was the bad guy in the group, so I would just sit silently in a group for a half of hour and then people would say: "Oh, you should talk more, you are just so boring".

I have experienced that... And it sucked...

[EscoLehGo]

QUOTE (goin-god @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 20:39)

And everyone hates black people.

Uh...ok?

[TheGTAHell97]

I wonder why people have ethnic problems...

[goin-god]

QUOTE (EscoLehGo @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 17:56)

QUOTE (goin-god @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 20:39) And everyone hates black people. Uh...ok?

I was generalizing, like you seem to do alot.

[Forty]

QUOTE (goin-god @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 14:39)

QUOTE (EscoLehGo @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 17:31) QUOTE (goin-god @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 20:27) You said people are terrible, so you seem to avoid them. Makes me think you rarely talk to people. You even said he shouldn't care about looking for friends or people to talk to. And said masturbating is actually better than being with a girl. At around 15 most people want to experience their first love, masturbating isn't gonna feel better than that. Overall you give the impression that your life is like that.[/color] People are terrible and I never said that masturbation was better than the real thing but for a shy 15 year old it's pretty much your best bet for right now until things work themselves out and you grow into yourself a little better. Also, at 15 boys are just trying to get laid and they're thinking of sex 24/7, I think it's the girls who are interested in "love". I don't think he should avoid people but don't put them on a pedestal, realize they're mostly assholes anyway and you really don't have to impress them. And everyone hates black people.

I know I do.

It's their hair.

[EscoLehGo]

QUOTE (goin-god @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 20:58)

QUOTE (EscoLehGo @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 17:56) QUOTE (goin-god @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 20:39) And everyone hates black people. Uh...ok? I was generalizing, like you seem to do alot.

Saying people are awful isn't a generalization, it's an assessment of them collectively, most people are generally sh*tty. I'm not excluding myself out of the bunch, but most people really are not that great. You really get a good look at humanity when you work in retail or customer service for a few years pandering to sh*tty person after sh*tty person with huge senses of entitlement.

[Mockage]

QUOTE (EscoLehGo @ Thursday, Jul 5 2012, 15:26)

How about you learn to enjoy your own company? What do you want to go around talking to people for? Most of them are terrible, just f*cking terrible. I mean whens the last time you've actually had a real conversation with someone, wasn't it terrible? Didn't you think to yourself "God damn this guy is such a vapid piece of sh*t". Embrace yourself my son, you don't need people.

Don't listen to this guys advice, he's just trying to turn you into an anti-social nutcase. Not being around people.. lmao do you know how damaging that is in order to obtain a good social wellness, something you truly desire? Trust me, don't be like that. Take a step out your front door, head to the busy section of town, a restaurant, wherever you may or think teens hang out and start chatting with a random person you spot. Talk about the weather, or if they're doing something fun like shooting hoops (if you think that's fun of course) then join in with them. I made a few friends by simply hopping in pickup games at my local courts. Trust me, if you think it hurts to try, then embrace it. We've all embraced dodgeball in gym class, we've all embraced walking through the busy and bustling school hallways, we've all embraced riding our bikes without training wheels, we've done a lot. Hop in and make friends as you go. Always have a smile on as well.

As for getting rejected... embrace that as well. There's a lot of douchebags, just don't associate with them. That's just a part of trying to make new friends. Like I said, embrace it and move on.

Good luck anyways.