[Vanzant]

QUOTE (lil weasel @ Saturday, Mar 3 2012, 05:16)

What it all comes down to is that Cheating (like in the GTA's) ruins the Game for real Players.

Your post kinda reminds me of those times I've played those crane games. You adjust where you want the crane to drop, hit the button, it drops, shuts and I get nothing.

[Chunk]

Bitches ain't sh*t.

[Warlord.]

...but hoes and tricks.

[NaidRaida]

QUOTE (K^2 @ Saturday, Mar 3 2012, 05:30)

Problem with cheating in a relationship isn't so much with cheating itself as with dishonesty in relationship in general. Some people have open relationships, and there is nothing wrong with that. Though, it definitely isn't for everyone. But with cheating, you lose trust, and that's never good. It doesn't necessarily make the person who cheated a bad person. That depends. But relationship is going to be spoiled if not ruined.

Couldn´t have explained it better.

Cheating is not about having sex with whoever and whenever. Cheating means to have a hollow ring. And that can happen in any part of life, not only when it comes to relationships with women.

This post has been edited by NaidRaida on Saturday, Mar 3 2012, 16:10

[canttakemyid]

I believe that people hundreds of years from now might think that we were silly for not having sex with others outside of our relationships. *Breaking the agreement on sexual exclusivity (cheating) is wrong; but the idea of limiting the rest of your short life to one partner by default is kind of silly. "Love" doesn't=Sex. So what is the logic of connecting the two all the time. Risk of getting STDs are the one and only reason I don't engage in open relationships. I'd call it a sexual vacation

*Idk...it sounds crazy but why are people naive enough to think that same sex relationships (example of relationship taboo at one time) are the farthest society will give in terms of the status quo for relationships from here on out?

This post has been edited by canttakemyid on Sunday, Mar 4 2012, 19:10

[Melchior]

People don't cheat for no reason. You can't say whether there's anything wrong with cheating because that's making a sweeping statement about all relationships - relationships are idiosyncratic and complicated. People need to be less judgemental about this sort of thing.

[finn4life]

Well morally, it depends on the person really, if my girlfriend (Hypothetically speaking, for this example i would imagine my old gf) cheated on me, i wouldn't be particularly concerned, it wouldn't really bother me much, but i would dump her, simply because i don't want to think about my gf banging some other dude when im not around, it's just a bit weird, but that's in a relatively non serious relationship, in a serious relationship, maybe i would care emotionally, i dunno.

If one of my mates cheats on his girlfriend he doesn't lose any respect from me, since most of my mates are not in serious relationships, but for people who are married that just shows a total lack of disrespect for the actual concept of marriage and your partner whom you have supposedly comitted yourself to.

This post has been edited by finn4life on Sunday, Mar 4 2012, 12:30

[JayC]

I have always had, or tried to have, sexual contact with people outside my relationships. I have been cheated on too and it doesn't bother me. Sex is just sex. My partner and I have a much deeper connection than the physical which I do not seek in other women.

I don't think it means I have any less respect for my partner, nor do I think it belittles the feelings I have for her. The girls I date and chase are all aware of this part of my character, hell even my best friend warns them about me (Thanks for that papanesta!).

I don't f*ck any sluts though, if its easy then its not fun.

I just thought I'd chime in since no one seems to have posted that they do this and are fine with it. I wonder who in here is lying about it.

[_____]

QUOTE (ThePinkFloydSound @ Tuesday, Feb 28 2012, 23:59)

I just don't think people are supposed to me with one person. In the future I envision the human race having many 'life partners.' It's already going that way. I think we may adapt to being less hurt when partners cheat. I'm not talking in 20 years, I'm talking maybe hundreds.

I was thinking this exact thing today. If we look at the other animals we see that they don't stick to one partner, but then you have to wonder how other people do it.

[GTA_stu]

QUOTE (JayC @ Sunday, Mar 4 2012, 13:25)

I have always had, or tried to have, sexual contact with people outside my relationships. I have been cheated on too and it doesn't bother me. Sex is just sex. My partner and I have a much deeper connection than the physical which I do not seek in other women. I don't think it means I have any less respect for my partner, nor do I think it belittles the feelings I have for her. The girls I date and chase are all aware of this part of my character, hell even my best friend warns them about me (Thanks for that papanesta!). I don't f*ck any sluts though, if its easy then its not fun. I just thought I'd chime in since no one seems to have posted that they do this and are fine with it. I wonder who in here is lying about it.

But does your partner know that you have sex with other women?

[El Zilcho]

QUOTE (GTA_stu @ Sunday, Mar 4 2012, 17:42)

QUOTE (JayC @ Sunday, Mar 4 2012, 13:25) I have always had, or tried to have, sexual contact with people outside my relationships. I have been cheated on too and it doesn't bother me. Sex is just sex. My partner and I have a much deeper connection than the physical which I do not seek in other women. I don't think it means I have any less respect for my partner, nor do I think it belittles the feelings I have for her. The girls I date and chase are all aware of this part of my character, hell even my best friend warns them about me (Thanks for that papanesta!). I don't f*ck any sluts though, if its easy then its not fun. I just thought I'd chime in since no one seems to have posted that they do this and are fine with it. I wonder who in here is lying about it. But does your partner know that you have sex with other women?

Hopefully so or his entire relationship point is void.

[Evil.Tim]

I've had a situation surprisingly similar to OP's. Cheating is just wrong, and I honestly believe anyone who does it deserves death. In modern times, there's nobody forcing you to stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy, so why the f*ck cheat?

[canttakemyid]

QUOTE (_____ @ Sunday, Mar 4 2012, 17:31)

QUOTE (ThePinkFloydSound @ Tuesday, Feb 28 2012, 23:59) I just don't think people are supposed to me with one person. In the future I envision the human race having many 'life partners.' It's already going that way. I think we may adapt to being less hurt when partners cheat. I'm not talking in 20 years, I'm talking maybe hundreds. I was thinking this exact thing today. If we look at the other animals we see that they don't stick to one partner, but then you have to wonder how other people do it.

So I too am not alone. Humans (in western cultures at least) aren't far from this.

[trip]

QUOTE (_____ @ Sunday, Mar 4 2012, 13:31)

If we look at the other animals we see that they don't stick to one partner, but then you have to wonder how other people do it.

Not entirely true. Some animals are very monogamous. Ie. Swans have been known to commit suicide after the death of their mate. Bald eagles are also monogamous, but they are more likely to get over the death of their mate and move on. I believe there are even some fish and reptiles that stick with one partner for life.

[Ziggy455]

Mating for life is something most species are accustomed to. Spiders do it.

The only thing which defines us a monogamous race is the ability of free will. We can choose to do what we like, when we like. We are not predetermined in our DNA to find one person. Relationships are hard, and nobody should succumb to cheating in them. I believe you can find that one person you just click with, and nothing else matters. You stay with them because you love them, the whole 'I don't get enough sex' thing shouldn't matter in the long run, all that should matter is you found somebody who loves you for you and nothing less.

[Guns N R0se]

QUOTE (trip @ Sunday, Mar 4 2012, 22:11)

Swans have been known to commit suicide after the death of their mate.

I am now imagining a swan swallowing a bottle of pills... it's remarkably hilarious.

[SirJizzums]

I once got with a girl who had a kid. Helped her raise it, spent most my free time keeping her company as she didn't go out too much since she had a kid. She cheated on me with a friend, she made it out he came onto her, so I forgave her like a dumbass.

Two months later, it's the month of my 18th birthday. She is distant, only came to me or let me see her when she saw fit, kept making me feel bad, and would see another of my best friends behind my back. By end of the month I figured out she had been cheating on me the whole month and even didn't go to my birthday meal so she could see him. She never paid back the £90 she owed me, or said sorry. She was proud of it and rubbed it in every chance she got.

Karma got her now, she has two kids and still is stuck in doors with two kids and a morbid lad who can't get a job because of lack of experience, social skills and limited time.


What comes around, goes around. Now I'm in a trusting relationship, got a job and never see the cow again. But if I did, I give her a cocky smile like "lol, life shat on you for slutting"...

____

Good guys may come last, but patiance pays off mother funker.

[Melchior]

QUOTE (SirJizzums @ Tuesday, Mar 6 2012, 02:31)

But if I did, I give her a cocky smile like "lol, life shat on you for slutting"...

Yeah! She's in the worst possible situation a young woman can be in, it must be karma for breaking your heart in high school!

[Guns N R0se]

QUOTE (SirJizzums @ Monday, Mar 5 2012, 16:31)

I once got with a girl who had a kid. Helped her raise it, spent most my free time keeping her company as she didn't go out too much since she had a kid. She cheated on me with a friend, she made it out he came onto her, so I forgave her like a dumbass. Two months later, it's the month of my 18th birthday. She is distant, only came to me or let me see her when she saw fit, kept making me feel bad, and would see another of my best friends behind my back. By end of the month I figured out she had been cheating on me the whole month and even didn't go to my birthday meal so she could see him. She never paid back the £90 she owed me, or said sorry. She was proud of it and rubbed it in every chance she got. Karma got her now, she has two kids and still is stuck in doors with two kids and a morbid lad who can't get a job because of lack of experience, social skills and limited time. What comes around, goes around. Now I'm in a trusting relationship, got a job and never see the cow again. But if I did, I give her a cocky smile like "lol, life shat on you for slutting"... ____ Good guys may come last, but patiance pays off mother funker.

wait...you dated a girl with a kid before you were 18? That's a poor choice

[MrDanceWithLance]

I believe it is wrong to cheat, because that is betraying the trust of your partner. Also, cheating can break up relationships and ruin your career (if you are a high profile sportsman).