[Ziggy455]

QUOTE (JOSEPH X @ Tuesday, Feb 28 2012, 22:04)

Humans aren't meant to be in monogamous relationships. Those ideals come about by culture shaping the mind.

If culture nowadays is teaching us anything, they're teaching us that life is one big party and you should f*ck everything.

You sir, need luck on your quest of celebite travels!

[What!?]

My current girlfriend cheated on her husband with me, and we are going on six months in our current relationship. She has left her husband, and as terrible as that sounds her marriage was a complicated situation. I never thought I would allow myself to partake in such a thing, I come from a broken home and always despised the idea of being "that guy". I found myself in a situation I didn't anticipate. I have known this woman for over seventeen years and have always had strong feelings for her. She is six years older then me however, so age and eventually living in different cities never allowed us to have a relationship. I never quite stopped thinking about her though. We kept in touch as friends, and when I moved back to my hometown we began to hang out. A long time had passed since we really had any time to spend together, and I had grown as a person and done many things with my life. It wasn't like she was the only woman I had ever fixed my attention on, but something about her has always been different.

Anyway, we were at an event together and she started making it very obvious that she had feelings for me. Everything I had ever felt for her just came rushing back into my mind and I couldn't stop myself... We are currently living together and everything is going well, and I anticipate that everything will continue to go well. I have been asked, how I can trust a relationship that started in this way? I don't have a good answer. All I know right now is its the most natural easy relationship I have ever had with someone.

As hypocritical as it sounds I still believe cheating to be wrong in principal. I sincerely regret causing anyone pain over what we have done, but at the same time I think its hard to understand a situation until you are the one going through it. As f*cked up as it is I understand my parents better as well. I think a little of what TheFloydSound has said rings true. Monogamy can be difficult. Especially if it is a relationship that grew and persisted for the wrong reasons. I think if you truly believe you belong with someone then life is too short to deny yourself a chance to find out if it works based solely on the fear of societies issues with cheating.

[*MURDOC*]

QUOTE (lil weasel @ Tuesday, Feb 28 2012, 17:04)

QUOTE (*MURDOC* @ Tuesday, Feb 28 2012, 21:48) QUOTE (lil weasel @ Tuesday, Feb 28 2012, 16:45) If you haven't entered in to a 'Contract' there isn't any cheating. In a 'Marrage Contract' it would be called Adultry. Which by current use isn't even punished. So how could 'cheating' among unmarried, un-contracted couple be 'bad'? It's more of a trust issue genius. What do you think a contract is? And, I didn't think it showed

I guess we've established that people don't necessarily gain intelligence as they age.

[TheGreatGig23]

Personally, I think it's f*cked up to cheat on someone. I've been cheated on a few times and it's never been an easy thing to get over. My last relationship changed everything for me. She left me purely because we were drifting apart. As much as it killed me inside, I completely understood where she was coming from and had nothing but respect for her honesty. Purely for breaking up with me that way, it made things a little easier because I had no questions that went unanswered. Still, it f*cked me up because I'm a fool for love and I let myself become too invested.

I must admit that I can definitely see the temptation though. There had been a few times where I had been hanging out with some friends either drinking or smoking pot and, mainly because of the intoxication of people, they became quite flirty. I've slept with a few of my female friends and we've always been cool about it. I always knew when things may have gone too far so I knew when to back off. The temptation was there but I never got too close. Thank god.

[rodneythesavior]

Every girlfriend I've ever had has cheated on me. On my 19th birthday, I found out that my girlfriend and my "best-friend" had had sex. I couldn't trust anyone for a long time. Everyone makes mistakes, I've cheated once. I felt so bad about it, that I told my girlfriend immediatly, and eventually we worked through it.

QUOTE (Ziggy455 @ Wednesday, Feb 15 2012, 17:58)

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

That's not necessarily true. My current girlfriend was dating this douche for 2 years before me and her hooked up. She broke up with him, and we started dating. It was rocky for a while, she cheated on me with him for the first two months, but I told her it was either him or me. She chose me. We've been together ever since. (that was nearly 3 years ago... damn time flies) And we have a daughter now.

What I'm trying to say is. It really depends on the girl/guy's personality. You have to take alot of things into account. In your situation, you're right (sorry ) But you can't say 'Once a cheat, always a cheat' Keep your chin up, eventually you'll find the right girl.

This post has been edited by rodneythesavior on Thursday, Mar 1 2012, 13:30

[Wreckless Jake]

QUOTE (Ziggy455 @ Thursday, Feb 16 2012, 01:15)

Well my girlfriend of the last three years has cheated on me and left me for her new boyfriend. This NEW boyfriend is in fact her ex who she lost her virginity to and following that, he cheated on her twice, with her best friend. Now I'm not condoning my actions over the last three years, I've never hit her, never cheated, always tried my best to support her. She claims she's wanted her ex back for a long time and eventually she couldn't stop herself and got with him. I was just wondering if anybody here condones cheating or have had their own experiences with a cheating partner or ex?

He was probably better at giving head or had a bigger penis or something. Life's a bitch.

I've never cheated on anyone i've been serious with, that's because if I was just going to shag people willy nilly, I wouldn't get in a relationship. Most girls are fine with a casual relationship nowadays anyway. I've been in a relationship for 5 months now though and it's serious, I have no intention of f*cking anything with a pulse anymore, that got boring when I was like 18.

I don't think i've ever been cheated on either.

[El Zilcho]

What is it with girls (some genuinely intelligent, some slags) constantly falling for people who do not care for them at all, allowing themselves to be used, and forsaking those who are truly worth their time? Honestly, it makes me wonder if the majority of them are shallow because the amount of people I've seen hurt, the amount of close friends of mine (including a few girls) who've proven this over and over again; it's just ludicrous.

[NaidRaida]

QUOTE (El Zilcho @ Thursday, Mar 1 2012, 20:47)

constantly falling for people who do not care for them at all

Some girls are just plain stupid. Tell them some nice things, they'll do everything for you. I always considered women to be much more shallow than men.

[TheGreatGig23]

QUOTE (El Zilcho @ Thursday, Mar 1 2012, 18:47)

What is it with girls (some genuinely intelligent, some slags) constantly falling for people who do not care for them at all, allowing themselves to be used, and forsaking those who are truly worth their time? Honestly, it makes me wonder if the majority of them are shallow because the amount of people I've seen hurt, the amount of close friends of mine (including a few girls) who've proven this over and over again; it's just ludicrous.

It's a damn shame that this is often true. My housemate who has a lot going for her in terms of attraction, intelligence and just overall personality, has the biggest prick of a boyfriend I know of. He's cheated on her, talks to her like she's sh*t and never bothers to put any effort into making her happy. She's always whining about him and yet she does f*ck all about it. I had a huge crush on her around the time we met and she eventually told me that she liked me too. Without sounding too pompous or full of myself I can honestly say that I'd be a million times better than him. But, of course, he's far better looking, dresses fashionably, a vain twat so obviously he's the better choice. This is a perfect example of woman-logic.

Women; Can't live with them, can't live without them.

[OdDsOcK]

QUOTE (NaidRaida @ Thursday, Mar 1 2012, 14:08)

QUOTE (El Zilcho @ Thursday, Mar 1 2012, 20:47) constantly falling for people who do not care for them at all Some girls are just plain stupid. Tell them some nice things, they'll do everything for you. I always considered women to be much more shallow than men.

My father related to me a story from a book he is reading that was written by a psychologist. The book focuses specifically on developing relationships and why people do stuff like what you just said they do.

The story detailed a patient of the psychologist who constantly fell for men who didn't treat her well mentally or emotionally. It came out that in her past, her father had been very similar in terms of being cold or loving her conditionally, and as you'd expect of a child, she always sought to gain his affection. This ended up translating into her relationships. Subconsciously she sought a man who was similar to her father so that she could show herself that she could win his affection by proxy--that is, if she could get someone similar to her father to love her, she make her father to love her, and she would feel validated.

People love to use the term "daddy issues" to describe girls with psychological problems, but using such a euphemism really undermines the deep complexity of a lot of mental issues that both men and women suffer from on account of poor parenting. What girls like the one above need are some good counseling and supportive, upfront friends.

As for the question about cheating, I can't believe it's actually a question. Going behind the back of someone you pledged monogamy to is cowardly, foolish, selfish, and potentially dangerous if the sex is unprotected. While I do believe that humans are polyamorous by nature, cheating is unacceptable. Always. Better to just ditch the person and then get your jollies off with someone else.

[okei]

Thought I'd add this, but my best friend's girlfriend is going to come down to Plymouth just to visit me and have sex and the funny thing is… we haven't even met. Oh dear lord if I slept with her I would be a very horrible horrible friend.

[Guns N R0se]

QUOTE (okei @ Friday, Mar 2 2012, 02:37)

Thought I'd add this, but my best friend's girlfriend is going to come down to Plymouth just to visit me and have sex and the funny thing is… we haven't even met. Oh dear lord if I slept with her I would be a very horrible horrible friend.

Inb4 she's fat.

[Vanzant]

I was only cheated on once. I didn't take it so well. For the faint of heart and those with weak stomachs I have decided to tell what I did with a spoiler tag. This is also the first time I have ever used one. This story is not safe for work nor is it safe for anyone who hasn't eaten. +18 years old content.

After I found out this girl had cheated on me, I called some girls and made some dates. I had sexual intercourse with Three girls in Two days without foreplay or oral sex. I did not shower for either of these. I then let that smelly sex stink sit there for another full day. Had to work those days too that made it awful foul. My girlfriend that cheated on me at the time didn't know I knew she cheated and being so she had she sure was being awfully nice to me. So I called for a Rum and Coke night! Yay! Let's get drunk! ....After four strong mixed drinks I asked for a head job. Since she was buzzed/intoxicated her senses wasn't very strong and I took advantage of that and cleaned that dirty sh*t off in her mouth. I wrote her a break-up note the next day explaining what she had done and what I did to her in return. I never heard from her since and she has me blocked on every social network site there is, even if i'm not a member.

[Guns N R0se]

QUOTE (Vanzant @ Friday, Mar 2 2012, 03:21)

I was only cheated on once. I didn't take it so well. For the faint of heart and those with weak stomachs I have decided to tell what I did with a spoiler tag. This is also the first time I have ever used one. This story is not safe for work nor is it safe for anyone who hasn't eaten. +18 years old content. After I found out this girl had cheated on me, I called some girls and made some dates. I had sexual intercourse with Three girls in Two days without foreplay or oral sex. I did not shower for either of these. I then let that smelly sex stink sit there for another full day. Had to work those days too that made it awful foul. My girlfriend that cheated on me at the time didn't know I knew she cheated and being so she had she sure was being awfully nice to me. So I called for a Rum and Coke night! Yay! Let's get drunk! ....After four strong mixed drinks I asked for a head job. Since she was buzzed/intoxicated her senses wasn't very strong and I took advantage of that and cleaned that dirty sh*t off in her mouth. I wrote her a break-up note the next day explaining what she had done and what I did to her in return. I never heard from her since and she has me blocked on every social network site there is, even if i'm not a member.

That's very petty and juvenile of you

but she deserved it. High five.

[okei]

QUOTE (Guns N R0se @ Friday, Mar 2 2012, 02:46)

QUOTE (okei @ Friday, Mar 2 2012, 02:37) Thought I'd add this, but my best friend's girlfriend is going to come down to Plymouth just to visit me and have sex and the funny thing is… we haven't even met. Oh dear lord if I slept with her I would be a very horrible horrible friend. Inb4 she's fat.

I quite like fat chicks (I rarely discriminate) but nah, she's average sized but damn she's Canadian and I hate British women.

[BabeRuth]

It depends on the situation.

[trip]

QUOTE (JOSEPH X @ Tuesday, Feb 28 2012, 18:04)

Humans aren't meant to be in monogamous relationships. Those ideals come about by culture shaping the mind.

I'm going to politely disagree with your statement.

Being monogamous is a respect thing. You want to respect your partner by being faithful.

The catch is sometimes it takes some proper 'sampling' before you find the partner that is right for you. If you are in a relationship and you are discovering that the person you are with isn't really 'the one' for you, then you really don't feel obligated to extend the same level of respect as you would for someone you think is 'the right one'.

My one girlfriend in HS cheated on me. Honestly, I didn't care - I was looking for a way out anyway and her actions made it easy.

If a chick cheats on you then she probably isn't that into you. Just don't take it personally. It's not your fault or anything - sometimes people just don't match up. Sometimes a dramatic exit is easier than being honest I guess.

[4 Bagger]

QUOTE (GTA 360 @ Tuesday, Feb 28 2012, 21:36)

Of course it's wrong you moron.

Not sure if he opened this topic to be called a moron....

Anyway, I would never trust anyone if they cheated on me. If I found out, I'd just kick them out onto the curb; whatever their excuse.

[K^2]

Problem with cheating in a relationship isn't so much with cheating itself as with dishonesty in relationship in general. Some people have open relationships, and there is nothing wrong with that. Though, it definitely isn't for everyone. But with cheating, you lose trust, and that's never good. It doesn't necessarily make the person who cheated a bad person. That depends. But relationship is going to be spoiled if not ruined.

[lil weasel]

What it all comes down to is that Cheating (like in the GTA's) ruins the Game for real Players.